No one likes feeling rejected by another person, it creates feelings of anxiety and sadness within all of us. For men, rejection can be even worse, affecting how they feel about themselves as men and even questioning their self-confidence. Therefore, many times men refuse to approach a woman they find attractive or want to get to know. This is unfortunate, since they may be missing out on a wonderful opportunity to create a loving and fulfilling relationship. That being said, there are ways men can mitigate this fear of rejection.
1. Tell yourself: It’s not you, it’s her.
She may not be interested in getting to know you for a variety of reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with you. For instance: she’s already seeing someone, not interested in dating anyone, or maybe she just had a horrible day at work. Whatever the reason, her turning down your attempt at flirting may have very little to do with you personally.
2. Fear is far worse than reality.
When you see a woman that you may be interested in dating, immediately approach her. If you wait too long, fear will set in and you will find all kinds of excuses not to approach that potential date.
3. Rejection happens to every man.
You are not alone. Every man who has attempted flirting has been rejected at some point. It does not matter how handsome, wealthy or witty he may be. The more you put yourself out there, the easier it can get.
4. Don’t base your self-worth on others’ perceptions.
As much as rejection can hurt, keep in mind that this person doesn’t know the real you.
When a woman is approached by a man, if she is interested in dating him, she has to make a snap decision based on very little information.
5. Learn to dread regret instead of rejection.
A powerful practice to adopt is to consider the risk of regret more so than the risk of rejection. Think to yourself: how much will I regret not talking to her later? We lose every shot we don’t take; and we tend to regret the actions we don’t take more so than those we do. More than likely, you will realize that you will regret your inaction… use this: don’t allow the fear of rejection to paralyze you; have faith that you’re worth getting to know!
About Jasbina Ahluwalia
Jasbina Ahluwalia adds a unique contribution to the Matchmaking industry – she has pioneered an approach to matchmaking, which blends the best of The East and West.
She is an Indian-American Attorney-turned-Entrepreneur, Relationship Expert, Radio Show Host, and Matchmaker/Dating Coach.
She is the Founder & President of Intersections Match by Jasbina, the only Premier Matchmaking & Dating Coaching Firm for Indian Singles in the U.S., Canada, and the U.K.
A finalist in OPRAH’S search for a TV Host, she’s also been featured in the New York Times, San Jose Mercury News, Chicago Tribune, Washington Post, Huffington Post, and Entrepreneur Magazine.
She has also moderated/participated on panels at Harvard Business School, Wharton, Northwestern, and Columbia.
Jasbina previously practiced law in San Francisco and Chicago. She earned her B.A/M.A. in Philosophy from Vanderbilt University, and JD from the University of Michigan Law School.
Download Jasbina’s free eBook, “How To Connect On A First Date – 6 Secrets From A Matchmaker.” [eBook 1] Connect With A Man & [eBook 2] Connect With A Woman.
To learn about Intersections Match by Jasbina, please visit: www.IntersectionsMatch.com.
Jasbina can be contacted at info@intersectionsmatch.com.
